Delving Into the Dark Side: Part I

I will admit that it is only recently that I have fully embraced my deep fascination for domination/submission. It has always been my strongly held belief that I fill only the role of the Submissive Woman. But, as I told someone over this past weekend, you never know what you are truly capable of until you remove the words "can't" or "are not" before that which you heretofore believed you were.

In fact, it's amazing what one is capable of being or doing when you just embrace it and say, YES I AM that which I've decided to BE!

It's empowering. It's exhilarating. It's intoxicating.

So, while I dabbled and told partners past that what I enjoy is being in the submissive role, it's been my utter delight and shock to discover that I've really only scratched the surface of what that really means. It took the complete surrender of my self to a darker side of me that I never knew existed to understand what true submission really means.

This other side of me...she is wicked, where I am normally playful; velvety where I am oft shiny or bright; she is divine, sinful chocolate to my typically sweetly candy-coated outer shell. This alter-ego, she is the dark to my light; the shadow to my everyday visage that I have never understood and, quite frankly, feared.

But, a person can't be complete without the acknowledgment of their dualities. And this is what I was--half-complete, half-developed.

It amazes me that I've gone almost 30 years trying to push back and deny this person that is also me! In the coming weeks, months, years...I am really looking forward to getting to know this seductive, ethereal woman that is lurking in my depths. I've come to know that I am a strong woman, but getting to understand this part of my psyche, I suspect that my strength and my core go even beyond what I've touched.

This was not, by any means, an overnight discovery. In fact, this was a slooooowwww descent into the rich folds and tapestry that is "Diabolique" from the safely navigable shores of the self I knew.

How did this dark odyssey begin, you ask me? I'd like to laugh, and simultaneously cry too, because it all began with my partner, who was really the "Serpent" in this seductive genesis story.



The reason for the dual emotion is that I resisted. And, in my resistance I denied not just my own pleasure and personality, but his too.

Diavolo, my abject apologies for denying you and me for too long.

Consequently, the "apple," or the instrument of my happy demise and ruin, are a set of sheets. What has been a bestselling bondage item for my company has also been the iconic, and ironic, symbol of my own personal release.

Sportsheets, may seem like bondage-lite or even beginner's bondage. But it is, it was, a good place to start for me. I didn't know, couldn't have known, what my tiny submissions in this arena would amount to--all in the name of product research. It is in the personal and sexual moments of growth like these that I fully relish and appreciate what I do.

So, as you may have already detected, I have a soft spot for this product because it was my entree into this deliciously devious world of delights.



Bondage, domination, submission are ideas of sexual role playing that can be intimidating to many. It is not a form of love that suits everyone. I am not yet quite sure how comfortable I am with this medium of love and affection, but I am certainly enjoying the exploration of it.

oh vs. OOOOO

Some of you may be a little confused about the rating system. This is an excerpt from an email I sent to a friend of mine that asked me to do a little further explanation.


"I didn't want to get too explicit because my intention is to give the reviews and the rating system a little levity. Sometimes when something is too much it looks like it's trying too hard.

oh- it's not just a little "o" it's the really sad, pathetic whimper of something that could have been an orgasm.

O- Orgasm Like Chinese Food, you know what they say about Chinese food? You eat it then an hour later you're wanting more because you weren't satisfied by the last go round.

OO- Elbow Grease Orgasm, when you REALLY have to work on getting there.

OOO- Oh yeah Baby, that's going in the Arsenal! Meaning, this toy is pretty darn good, didn't have to multi-task too much to get my little piece of bliss!

OOOO- Whoa Mamma! Grin from ear-to-ear lasting for the next week...Well, that's just self-explanatory!

OOOOO- Orgasmic Rapture resulting in WNS (Wet Noodle Syndrome) Few things have the power to do this, but damn it's good when it does happen!

"Part of what I aim for is accessibility. We, as women, all go through much of the same struggles because healthy sexual expression is not taught or encouraged, but it's never discussed easily.

"I tried a more explicit rating system first but if felt wrong to me only because Orgasmic Ecstasy vs. Orgasmic Rapture was really difficult to differentiate and not as easily understandable. I really want people to be able to quickly know the difference between an "oh" and "OH OH OH OH OH." Using more mundane parallels like food, I felt, bridged the gap!"



My rule of thumb, never keep a toy (or a man) in your bed if you can't get at least OOOs, that is unless the toy (or the man) can be learned (or in the man's case taught) so that you can achieve the minimum 3 OOOs.

Life's too short to settle for less!

The One Touch Wonder Egg

It's a sexy job, but someone's gotta do it!

My first assignment as a Sexpert for CalExotics brought me closer to the One Touch Wonder Egg.


As many of you already know, I am an advocate of playing with a toy more than once to fully appreciate its features and design. It's not easy to discover what erotically creative uses any gizmo can inspire if it's only used once. Just because it doesn't quite work the first time doesn't mean that it will perform the same the next if you decide to do something different with it. Toys are enhancers, accessories, if you will, to the "main" event or experience! So, the declaration of a toy design as a success is much tied to the user's patience, creativity, and understanding of it's proper usage.

This, of course, does not mean that a toy's success rests solely on the user. If a toy is poorly designed, then, a toy is poorly designed. So, don't get me wrong, I'll toss something if it's more bother than it's worth. But, I DO like to see just how resourceful I can be, and therefore, always try to "make it work" with what I've got! It's a perspective or a way of living that naturally extends to all aspects of my life, from making a gourmet dinner from the random ingredients in my refrigerator to the toys I try out and bring into my bedroom. It is all about adventure and experimentation. And, it's a thrilling, personal challenge to eke out an incredible experience from anything I decide to do or endeavor!

But, forget about all that preamble!

You want to get to the good stuff!
What you really want to know is: "Was it good for me?"

Ok, hold your horses!

Let me lay a little groundwork on my strategy and philosophy behind the method to my reviewing madness!

I like to keep an open mind, but sometimes it's difficult when I get excited or discouraged about the idea and design just by looking at the package and imagining what the little sucker can or can't do!

I am guilty of having prejudices from the first blush. From a toy re viewer's standpoint, by that I mean that I anticipate the efficacy of a product by the outward appearance, manufacturer's description and specifications, what I know of myself, and what I think that particular object will do for me. A little pre-limiting yes, but also a reality. But, I DO like to be pleasantly surprised!

To be fair, what I'd like to do is relate all of my "first blush" prejudices and why. This way you as the reader or consumer can decide for yourself whether or not my biases are something you should take into account for your own consideration. I will then, happily, test :) And, lastly, I will relate my experience and share my rating of the product based, of course, on that particular test.

Soooooo, now, we arrive at the Egg--the One Touch Wonder.

First Blush Impressions:

Upon opening my package, I thought, velvet-cote, niiiice! I definitely like the feel of this egg. Smooth and, well, velvety, this means that it won't be jarringly cold when initially applied to my skin. This also means that the finish won't be coming off or fading off like some of the other toys on the market that are hard plastic with faux metal finishes or printed-on designs. Another observation that was noteworthy, the On-Off switch is on the little bell at the end of the cord, so no clunky attached remotes! Sweet!

After a few moments of looking over the product, my guess was that it was going to be a great toy for G-Spot stimulation during partner play and/or solo play with the assist of another vibe. Why? Mostly because as I looked at the toy and put the two N batteries that it came with inside the egg, I considered a prominent prejudice I have regarding toys with motors: vibes requiring less than 3 double-A batteries rarely have enough power or strength to satisfy. But, I'd like to be pleasantly wrong, so I pushed the little button at the end of the cord to test the power.

Wow! Nice vibrations on any of the three settings! I begin to wonder if my initial impressions may be false. Setting 1 is the constant hyper-vibe, setting 2 is the interval ascending vibe, and setting 3 is the low-to-intense interval vibe. The Egg is turned off by holding the On-Off switch down for a few seconds.

Time to test this baby!



The Test:

While the One Touch Wonder does have fairly good vibration, it still wasn't quite as strong enough to declare it a smashing success. It took a bit more effort on my part, but I was able to have a personal "happy ending" by using the egg on it's own as an external stimulator. What's great about this egg is that it has a nice wide surface if turned and used horizontally rather than vertically. I keep searching for a vibe or a massager that has a wider motor surface because precision clit vibration means I have to keep the toy on the "right" spot at all times. Don't get me wrong, it's not that I mind multi-tasking, but it does take away from some of the abandon of achieving orgasm if you have to split your focus. So, the One Touch Wonder gets 3 "OOOs" for versatility of positioning, and 2 "OOs" for power for external stimulation.

I also give the One Touch 3 "OOOs" for the redesign of a classic by putting the control at the end of the chord. This design not only makes the One Touch Wonder a little more modern and sleek, but it also lessens accidental changes in settings, which can be frustrating. How many of us were right about to cum when we accidentally rolled over the remote, changed the vibration speed of a toy, and then lost the ethereal path to orgasmic nirvana? Yep, it's happened to all of us!

So, after my little solo-play, I enlisted the aid of my partner for further research.


As I suspected, the One Touch is perfect for partner play and realizing orgasmic bliss through the G-spot! This egg is great to apply a gentle, but constant, teasing vibration to that special spot while your partner is stimulating your clitoris or helping you use another vibe. Using the One Touch Wonder internally seems to present more erotically fun possibilities because it can be left inside the vagina for constant stimulation while a million other combination of sexy activity is done!

Now, I didn't try to use the egg internally then use another vibe externally by myself....yet. :) But, for the purposes of this particular review, I can confidently conclude that the One Touch Wonder is a nice little addition to my personal toy box! If CalExotics were to release any future models of the One Touch Wonder, I hope that they pack a little more punch of power in the next release!

Pleasuredevils.com Orgasmic Rating System:
oh-...Do we still have the receipt?
O-Orgasm like Chinese Food, only slightly satisfying
OO-Elbow Grease Orgasm
OOO-Oh yeah baby! This one's going in the arsenal!
OOOO-Whoa Mamma! Grin from ear-to-ear lasting for the next week.
OOOOO-Orgasmic Rapture Resulting in WNS (Wet-Noodle Syndrome)

Unleashing the Sexy Beast with the help of the 'Devils Minions

We know you've got some sexy in you; YOU know you've got some sexy in you! But, DO you project the sexy that you have? More importantly, you've got an event to go to, now it's really time to show that SEXY you feel and know you have. But, just how do you project this?

The 'Devils Minions at Pleasuredevils.com can help!

Discovering and projecting the Sexy Beast within can and DOES, a lot of the time, take some divine help and intervention! Just like masterpieces weren't created in a day, so too, is SEXY developed, nurtured, and encouraged. It's like a muscle that needs exercise, it grows stronger the more you use it.

Pleasuredevils.com is proud and impishly happy to introduce 4 services that will help you flex those sexy muscles.


You won't just dress or feel sexy, but you'll also learn how to identify your own particular brand of sexy. Each of our 4 packages will not just help you figure out what to wear or what do for that one night, but will also teach you what questions to ask of yourself so that you can confidently begin to plan out your own evenings in the future!

SEXY BEAST I: Tapping into the She-Devil
It all starts here. There's something about releasing our inner sexy that is most often helped along by donning a specifically different "guise," look, or outfit. The 'Devils will personally work with you to begin determining what brings out your inner-Aphrodite, your inner-Hellcat, your inner-Sexy Beast by choosing an outfit, footwear, and accessories to complete a look that can take you from blah-blah boring to va va va voom! You can't begin to feel sexy if you don't look it!

A perfect gift to treat yourself if going to a special party or an intimate night with that special someone! Also a wonderful present for your ladylove or a friend that might need a little extra help in putting a sexy get-up together!

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Cost of clothes, shoes, and accessories not included.

SEXY BEAST II: Unleashing the She-Devil
Let's face it, sometimes it takes a little more than outfit coordination to unleash the she-devil within! Sometimes you need to assemble a strategy that includes your make up and your hair too! This is complete sexification with the 'Devils as your assistants!

$275 includes 1.5 hours of consultation strategy to arrive at unleashing the sexiest you possible; phone/email follow-ups.
Cost of clothes, shoes, accessories, hair and/or make up services not included.

SEXY BEAST III: Pleasuring the She-Devil
Well, you've got a hellcat. Or, at least you want to coax out the hellcat or sexy vixen tonight but haven't a clue as to how!

Many people have loving, caring, wonderful relationships that need a little sensual kick-start now and then. Variety, she is the spice of life. And, moreover, it's a the well-thought out surprise or fantasy that will manifest the carnal response that you might be looking for in your partner.

SBIII is designed for the thoughtful partner that needs a little help in creating a fantasy day and/or night for their lover. The 'Devils will work together with you to create a day and/or evening that is designed to make sure that your partner knows how special s/he is to you! We assure you, this is no generic kit that contains fake petals and a wimpy travel candle; no two carnal cravings are alike...and so too will each package be different!

$150 includes 1 hour consultation; phone/email follow-ups.
Cost of clothes, shoes, accessories, toys, and possible activities not included.

SEXY BEAST IV: Pleasuring YOU and the She-Devil
Not only do you need some inspiration, you also need a little help putting the package together! Never fear, the 'Devils minions are here!!!

SBIV is designed for the thoughtful partner that not only needs a little extra help in creating a fantasy for their lover, but actually putting some of the pieces together too. The 'Devils will work together with you to create a day and/or evening that is designed to make sure that your partner knows how special s/he is to you! We will also put the pieces of the package together so that you can concentrate on just being the best lover you can be in tandem with the specially designed fantasy package that you worked on earlier.

Again, we assure you, this will be no generic kit, but a truly unique creation based on what turns your partner into the pleasure-loving hellcat or lascivious siren of your dreams! This is a true concierge service; while you still have to do the work when the time's right, we optimize that time for you and put some of the key ingredients together so that hopefully, when the time IS right, it's flawless, seamless, and utterly sexy!

$350 includes 2 hours of consultation; phone/email follow-ups; procurement of items for fantasy package.
Cost of items for fantasy package (i.e. clothes, shoes, accessories, toys, and possible activities) not included.



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The Pleasure Prime Directive

Everyone's got a Sexy, Erotic Fantasy. Pleasuredevils.com can help make it happen!

Our belief is that the world would be one helluva happier, healthier place if people were able to sexually express themselves. While we live in a time and place that is much more understanding and open, there are still vestiges of puritanical judgment, condemnation, and fear.

We want to contribute in making a world a better place one sex toy, one sexy outfit, one erotic fantasy at a time!

Just in case you haven't been to our website yet, please do go and check it out. Below here, are our guiding principles, our prime directive if you will!


TOY BOX

Even adults need toys!

Having a great fantasy and sex life doesn’t mean you have to be an expert in sex, it just means that you have to be willing to have fun, do a little sexploration, and maybe not take sex and your self so seriously!

It can be daunting to buy your first adult toy if you’ve never purchased one before, but while the purpose of said gizmo is probably for personal, or your partner’s, pleasure keep in mind that sexy isn’t always serious. Sexy can be playful and fun, but most of all sexy is intimately about what you think and know makes you or your partner feel good about yourselves, each other, and/or your relationship.

Interestingly enough, what makes a product sexy or viable is what you decide to do with it in your fantasy life. A toy is just a toy, but when your sexy thoughts, sensual energies, and seductive selves are added to it, you’ve then got the makings of an incredible fantasy!

So, take the first step in making some of your fantasies a reality and check out our Toy Box. Go ahead and take a peek, nothing is scary and everything is hand selected for different fantasies, tastes, and/or purposes.

Consider the Pleasuredevils Toy Box to be your Toy Box!

PLEASURE WEAR

Toys from our Toy Box can really ignite and spark the imagination, but sometimes, sexual inspiration has to come from within. Certain people and especially certain women exude sexuality and sensuality. Each woman emanates this energy with a signature look, smell, touch, etc. All of these women have one thing in common, confidence. Confidence in themselves, what they want, and are absolutely comfortable in what they are wearing because they know it’s sexy.

There is nothing sexier than a woman that knows how great she looks in clothing that she is wearing.

With confidence, she knows that the garment skimming her curves expressly fits the purposes of her desires. With unutterable poise, she understands that the artfully chosen heels on her feet commands electrically charged attention. And with undeniable pleasure, she grasps your attention by expressing all that she wants in a single look.

All women deserve that magical boost of certainty in her femininity with that special little outfit. Pleasurewear is all about getting the right look for the right event. Every woman shopping from Pleasuredevils.com can experience that euphoric pleasure of confident sexuality.

Explore our closet and find a little magic of your own!

And last, but certainly not least...

EROTICA & FANTASY

While it's true that there is nothing sexier than a woman that knows how great she looks in clothing that she is wearing, it is also true that sensual energy sparks even more sensual energy. Getting caught up in someone's sexual desires and secret sensual dreams can be extremely thrilling.

The stuff of dreams…can be the stuff of reality!

Fantasies only remain thus if you never try to enact one. The erotic and the unspoken, unbidden dreams of adults far too often remain in the minds that imagine them. Sadly, these erotic fantasies never take wing and become the tangible, veritable sensual delights that they should be.

Planning can be daunting, like picking out your first toy! But, as in picking out your first toy, you have to start somewhere. And really, planning doesn’t have to be so tedious. It can be fun and exciting. Oftentimes the details of making a fantasy come true can be an experience in it of themselves.

Now, plans change and what is sexy should be flexible. No one wants a stressed out lover that is more focused on the plans than their partner. So, bear in mind that fantasy-making can and should remain fun for everyone involved! Don’t get too caught up in making the fantasy perfect, just get caught up in the fantasy.

This section of Pleasuredevils.com is devoted to generating ideas, igniting that fire, or helping you make that fantasy into a reality.

It is my fervent hope that people understand Pleasuredevils.com isn't just an online boutique or adult novelty store. Yes, we are a business. And, YES, we want your business! But most of all we are hopefully the beginning, the genesis, of your fantasy-life; a safe, but fun place to explore erotic possibilities; and most of all a fulfilling destination in helping to make some of those sensuous ideas come to life through our products and/or services.

The Latest Sinful Delights

Chocolate vs. Sex; Eco-friendly Vibes; Halloween Sexiness; and Bordello-Inspired Shoes

9.24.09

BETTER THAN CHOCOLATE
Seriously? Well, we won't claim it's better than the real stuff, but what we can tell you is that this new luxury vibrator is pretty darn good!

Mmmm...chocolate...mmm...orgasms...mmmm...orgasmic chocolatey goodness!



Beautifully designed, Better Than Chocolate by Nomi Tang boasts powerful vibrations controlled by using iTouch technology that most are familiar with through their iPods or iPhones. Fear that you'll accidentally change the setting because of sensitive controls? No worries, this vibe has thought of it all! Once an orgasmic setting is found, Better Than Chocolate locks so that you can enjoy the dreamy, blissful decadence it can deliver. Uses 2 Double-A Batteries, uber-quiet, vibrates powerfully at the tip, not at the handle, and waterproof for fun, underwater play!

The EARTH ANGEL

Having sex and playing with your vibrator never felt so responsible! The Earth Angel Vibe is the world's first "green" vibrator. The angelic device is self-powered, never needs batteries, and charges in minutes. No more fumbling around for new batteries at that inopportune time ruining the mood! Heavenly!

The Earth Angel isn't just powered responsibly, it's also packaged that way! Both product and packaging are 100% recyclable.

1. THE EARTH ANGEL uses advanced, patented technology to operate which will never require replacement batteries. Unlike conventional vibrators the specially designed base does not open.



2. Built into the base is a small flip handle which you extract and turn clockwise. This motion charges the power core contained within. The power core will generate and store the energy for use. Turn this handle to power up THE EARTH ANGEL and toy is good to go giving instant, intense vibrations.



3. When finished using THE EARTH ANGEL, unused power will be stored inside for future use. Just pop the handle back into the base and put away. Indicator lights will show how much power remains unused.

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HALLOWEEN COSTUMES
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Kids shouldn't be the only ones having fun this Halloween! Play dress-up and discover how much fun costumes can be!

Role-play doesn't have to end in the bedroom though. Make sure to make use of those sexy costumes even after trick-or-treating!


The BORDELLO COLLECTION

All at once elegant, fun, seductive, outrageous, and glamorously sexy. Spice up any day or night affair with a pair of these striking silhouettes.



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Shoe Addicts Anonymous

I am a self-professed shoe addict.



I la la la love shoes!

My ardent love affair with shoes goes back to childhood and was encouraged by my doting grandma, aunties that dressed me up like a barbie doll, my mom (also a shoe-fanatic), and of course, our grande dame dictatress of the Philippines, Imelda Marcos. Apparently shoe fetishes run in my family and in my cultural heritage. I was born doomed to love shoes!



Imelda Marcos had a legendary amount of shoes and was the reigning lady of politics during my formative years. It wasn't that she was politically savvy or moved any political and metaphorical chess pieces. Imelda was an icon of degenerate excess. People loved to revile her the way they did Marie Anoinette. And, it was she that set the bar for me.

At 5-years old, I didn't really know it was consumerism at it's worst. I just thought, "wow, lots of pretty things that make me pretty too!" Shoes were like bows, they made everything beautiful and I wanted to make my whole world a parade of pretty by surrounding myself with it.




Today, shoes still play that basic, but oh-so-important, aesthetic role for me. Pretty that brings the oompf!

I find that shoes, can, and very often do, make or break an outfit.

Cliche, I know.

But seriously, shoes can be the coup de grace or the utter heartbreak of any getup--they can transfrom ugly to passable, passable to pretty, pretty to stunning and vice versa! They can be that final detail that just takes an outfit from the edge of gauche and trendy to refershinglhy avant garde. They can be the focal point or the inspiration behind what garments get pieced together to form a smart ensemble. Whether casual or dressy, our footwear DO get noticed, and for me, they are the extra sparkle that can elevate the dreary ho-hum to fantabulous!

It will come as no surprise then that my love affair with the shoe, or more precisely, with the uber-sexy stiletto, has also grown up with me. Outfits aren't the only thing being elevated by my shoes these days though. It seems like my sex life is getting a lift from my shoe obsession too!

My amorous affection for shoes does, of course, span the wide breadth and width of styles. But, my favorite is still, and will always be, the stiletto!

GOD love you! You are a sexy beast and you make ME a sexy beast!!!

I feel so damn sexy in my stilettos that I can't help but wear them to adult-play time too!

OH Yes! I do like to have sex in heels. They're almost as necessary as lube, condoms, and a mirror (ok, more on that in another blog, gotcha curious now haven't I?).

Heels turn me on specifically because of that x-factor that they bring. There's something insanely powerful about a woman in heels that pumps up her sexiness factor by a couple of degrees.

In many ways a beautifully sculpted heel is like a woman. Women have beautiful, sinuous, deliciously deadly curves that are echoed by a sumptuously styled stiletto. Note too that the little details that adorn a sexy pump can also imitate the style, gracile, and essence behind the wearer. It's almost like a pair of heels can be a "pair of sexy" that one puts on.

So, when I'm having sex or getting ready to have sex, I like to turn the dial UP. Waaaaay up by putting more sexy on! I mean why have standard sex when you can have AWESOME sex right?

If heels speak to you and inspire you to be a smokin', flamin' diva with a voracious appetitie for some hot and heavy lovin', go ahead put on a pair and see what happens tonight!

I'm not saying that heels are the only ingredient to passionate,earth-shattering sex, but it can be one of those inspiration points that bring out our inner-Aphrodite.


And that, my friends, is really what is the biggest turn on--a woman that knows what she wants, is hot for it, and then goes for it!


And, if you don't have pair of sex-on-heels, do me, yourself, and your partner a favor by going to www.pleasuredevils.com check out the new BORDELLO COLLECTION under Pleasure Wear.



Buy a pair and DO let me know how it goes! ;)

Dust off those Sex Toys!

Just like we aren’t born knowing how to ride a bicycle, we aren’t born knowing how to use sex toys. It may seem instinctive, intuitive, or at least think it should be just as we’re trying to understand the many different functions of that new gadget we just got.



Most of the time, I am enticed by the packaging or the marketing of a new toy. Like a little girl super excited about testing out her newest acquisition, I usually go home and take my shiny new object for a test drive as soon as privately possible!

I would love to say that every toy I’ve ever bothered to purchase worked the way it was supposed to and gave me endless amounts of pleasure. But alas, this was true for about 60% of the toys I’ve purchased.

Sure we girls have different anatomies and different toys just seem to do it for different people. But, there are some techniques and certain gadgets that seem to be universally accepted as the “sure thing.”

Being classified as someone that is a “hard” come, or rather difficult to orgasm, I accepted that despite the almost unanimous claims of the Rabbit as being a wonder-toy that I was the exception to the rule. Little did I realize that a lot of making a toy work was revisiting it and practicing with it! Much like riding a bicycle or doing anything new. Practice!

The Rabbit, as I’ve pointed out above, was one of the first toys I’ve ever tried in my adult life and summarily dismissed. It was also one of the first toys that I revisited a few years later to discover what everyone else had—bliss, pure orgasmic bliss! I am not sure if it was user error, user impatience, user frame of mind, and/or better and new technology. Maybe it was as combination of all of these factors that made the first experience a not so good one and the later experience a MUCH better one!

Either way, it taught me that my anatomy wasn’t all that different. I might still be difficult to orgasm by some standards, but if a toy worked for a good number of people, then I probably wasn’t using it right. Also, it made think that there were toys in my box of “unused” sex toys that I should revisit and retest.

The four different factors: user error, impatience, frame of mind, and new/better technology, were things that I began to look at more closely as I looked into my history of toy usage.

In almost all, but two, my partner and I were able to go back to some of the toys that have puzzled me, or rather us, in the past and made them work. Hurrah! Not only did I feel gratified that the money I spend wasn’t wasted after all, which was usually part of the disappointment that I felt after a new gadget didn’t work it’s magic, but I also learned something new about myself, my anatomy, and where my mental or emotional state had to be in order for some of these things to work.

A lot of the times, I really needed just to relax, take more time, and live more in my body and less in my mind—essentially it was the letting go of expectations and allowing the body to just respond to the design of the toy. There’s a certain amount of release in the mind that has to happen and a certain amount of allowing one to live fully in the body and the senses that isn’t taught to many people. My suspicion is that this is what has made it so difficult for me to achieve orgasm previously.

Re-trying and revisiting some of these toys was really fun! My partner and I, already doing recent research into g-spot orgasms, were also able to put some of our new found knowledge to use and found that these techniques go hand-in-hand with the ergonomics and design of some of these toys that we prior to felt were useless!

So, I guess I can’t really say I’m a “hard” or difficult come. I’ve had too much recent success to be able to complain about that! But I will say that the old adage, “practice makes perfect” is true in the case of many toys. Having some determination and creativity in making something work is also needed, along with a good dash of patience and maybe even a little bit of analytical thought.


It seems like sex toys shouldn’t be this hard to work and that it should just do its “thing” and get you off. Well, I hate to burst your proverbial bubble, but most toys aren’t like that. And thank goodness! If they were, well, we wouldn’t have to think and they wouldn’t be as much fun. In fact, I would argue that maybe the reason these toys aren’t so fun to figure out is that most people have to do it on their own! Sure, I can see where if you just want to release some pent-up tension, doing some analytical work on a new object will probably make for some very frustrating minutes with yourself and your new gadget. And, the whole factor of patience is then thrown out the window!

If you do decide you want to revisit or re-try a toy, I suggest doing it with your partner. It’s always more fun to do it as a team and two heads are better than one, erm….two people thinking on the ergonomics and design that is! If you’re honey isn’t too sure about using toys or thinks they are strange and weird, this is a wonderful time to enlist their help and get them used to the idea of toys as an additional enhancement in your bedroom repertoire!

There are so many good reasons to revisit that old box of sex toys that just didn’t seem to quite do it the first time! Learning about yourself and your anatomy, saving a little money, having some fun with your partner! I hope you do try to go back to your little box of idle sexy playthings and get it on!!!

Here are the few that I have re-called on and had some triumphs:


The Rabbit, or the new Impulse Jackrabbit (Cal Exotics SE0610203), this was definitely a case of where I was too much in my head, not enough in my body, and new/better technology!



Lucid Dreams, #14, by Doc Johnson (0926-01). This is one of Doc Johnson’s most popular g-spot toys. I felt it didn’t do much for me! But after revisiting this little number armed with some new techniques that my boyfriend and I had learned, this is a new gem in our collection that had previously been gathering dust for over 2 years!

The Idea of Being Tied Up: Ok, so this isn’t a toy. But, it was a toy or rather some sexy bedroom accoutrements that made me change my mind about this kinky, kinda S&Mish sexual occupation. Ahhhh, the Sportsheets! Yes, this was all about me, where I was at in my head, and learning how to tell my partner what I like and didn’t like. Not only did I learn about myself and teach my partner how to please me, I also learned the empowerment that comes with knowing what personally turned me on and being able to communicate it so that it could be used on me! Wow!


So, folks, I heartily encourage you break into your dusty toy chests and do some experimenting and exploring. At the same time, I also want to persuade any and all of you that purchase toys today but don’t get satisfaction from the first time you try it to try that puppy again! Practice, practice, practice! No, it doesn’t make for perfection, but it does, more often than not, make for a whole lot of fun!

Introducing: The Freak-O-Meter

I often forget how shocking I can be to the uninitiated eye.


My love for dramatic color and flair is something that I have embraced with such abandon. The fluorescent colors and hyper-pigments of my make-up, clothing, and hair have been accepted by most of the people that see me on a daily basis. What to many seems garish, outlandish, and outré to me just seems…well, normal!


I live by the rule, do what makes you happy (with the proviso not to harm anyone or thing). And, what makes me happy are colors. Lots of them!!!


It seems too, that my colorful shell matches a lot of my inner energy. So, it might be said that I’m a loud, colorful, and intense personality. Hell, I like to call it amiable and dazzling, but I think more would say that I am very assertive. The more charitable of the bunch would say that my personality is simply strong. But, I am as mushy and sentimental as they come. Rather, the more you know of me the more you will realize that I am quite gentle of spirit, even if somewhat flamboyant in appearance.


It made me wonder and protest to myself, just because I have a loud appearance doesn’t necessarily mean that I have a loud personality!!! Ok, I admit, I am high-energy and I do have a flair for the dramatic. But, I also have a deep, spiritual side that can be still. My capacity for this is not overshadowed by my love for color or vividness in all things.


I found this dichotomy interesting and pondered about what I might be projecting—sexually—that is.


A memory from a few years ago came to me in my musings. I remember being hit on by a guy in a bar at a local hotspot, Sino at Santana Row, then a swanky-singles-meat-market, if you will. This yokel’s S.O.P. was to grab the hands of girls, read their palms, and tell them their future. While I laughed this guy’s flimsy attempt at a gimmick, his “reading” of my palm did give me pause.


“You appear very sexual, but in point of fact and reality are not!” Putting aside the artless and terrible application of reverse psychology and pop-metaphysics, the guy's proclamation nonetheless made me stop and think.


Perhaps, though I appear exuberant and vocal about my sexual appetites, much like that of my appearance, I am not really as “freaky,” or as outlandish, or eccentric in my sexual demands or desires. So it lead me to thinking about other friends that seemed sexually open and vocal. After segregating the sexually vocal to who I deemed in my mind as almost-sexually mute, I began to think that there is no real correlation between being sexually outspoken to that of being sexually peculiar.


Just because you are loud doesn’t also mean you are freaky!


For example, I like guys that take the lead and are in control; they’ve got to be firm and make me feel feminine and overwhelmed. I’m rather opinionated about this and tell just about anyone that asks me what my preference is to lovemaking. However, if you think on it, this is not that uncommon for a lot of women. It seems that it is simply easier for my very sexually vociferous friends and I to talk about what we want in the bedroom.


Others, however, require a much more quiet and intimate setting before they give up their secrets. I had the privilege of learning some of the sexual proclivities of some of my quieter, less flamboyant friends in past few months; and I will be honest, they shocked me! Some of these quiet, unassuming, yet very layered and complex people have some really layered and complex desires. It makes sense and yet perception seems to be so counter-intuitive.


So, having this on the brain, I got into a rather long, but fun, debate with my friends a few weekend ago regarding the idea that strong sexual personalities, or rather seemingly strong sexual personalities, also tend to project strong sexual proclivities—i.e. they look like they rank up in the Freak-O-Meter because they are vocal about their sexual appetites.


Ahh, yes, we’ve come to the very scientific Freak-O-Meter. It's really just an arbitrary scale measuring sexual penchant—basically, it’s a freak-flag measuring stick. It’s foundation relies mostly on observation, conjecture, sneaky surveys that I've peppered into normal conversation, and at present, from some long, but very friendly debates.


I argued with everyone that just because I told everyone what I liked didn’t make me high on the Freak-O-Meter scale! In fact, I tried to make a case that I was a good, solid 6.5. I was laughed home and given a 9 unanimously by the group that I was debating. Yikes!


So, I can’t argue that I’m a 9 since they’ll all just think what they want to anyways. However, doesn’t it make you stop and think about the quiet ones; the ones who seem reserved and patient; the ones that seem ready to explode?


I explode with colors and excitement all the time at all things, I don't perceive myself to be pent up and feel rather secure in emphatic gestures or sentiments. However, others that aren't nearly as comfortable with being sexually brazen, we might mistake to rank at 4.5 or a 5.2 on the scale because they have more mellow attitudes and are less ostentatious. And, more often than not, we'd be wrong!


Think about it!


Doesn’t anyone remember a quiet lover that completely took them by surprise because they didn’t seem to be so freaky, so nasty, so dirty from first blush? And haven’t a lot of them been the ones that don’t necessarily have to be so expressive about it?


I hate to conclude that simpler tastes and minds express themselves more simply or more readily, because I don’t believe myself to be that simple. However, I do know and believe that despite my complexities, I tend to express and think in simpler terms; less in layers and rather more in singular interconnected ideas. And so, I also tend to express my sexuality and desires in simpler, singular, yet interconnected ideas.


On the flip-side, it can’t be summarily said that quiet, less-vocal people are more complex and, so too, that means their expressions and ideas, especially about sex and their sexuality, are equally so. I think we all have layers and unique idiosyncratic sexual appetites. In truth it’s subjective as to where one falls on the Freak-O-Meter. If I’m judging the gal next to me based on my Freak-O-Meter, she might fall higher or lower based on what’s comfortable for me and what shocks my socks off. But, if the same gal were to rate me based on her own scale, I may or may not be as high or low as I think I fall on mine as the scale now has a new barometer--now it's based on the imaginary, invisible gal's freakiness-factor sitting next to me.


I’d really love to Trade Mark the Freak-O-Meter, but since it’s a sliding scale, it might be difficult to get peeps to buy into it if their subjectivity is a variable in determining benchmarks. Besides, someone beat me to it, check out http://www.freakometer.net/


I'd like to challenge the idea that I'm a real "9," as I may appear to rank high because of my seeming expressiveness. My friends, or anyone else for that matter, will need to examine their own Freak-O-Meter scale before I can fully rank on it. In turn, I'll have to look at my own scale and determine why I think I rank a 6.5, because if I perceive myself as such, then what the heck does it say about what shocks and awes me if a 6.5 on my scale is really a 9 on others?


Well, for now, I’m freaky until proven otherwise!


How do you rate on your Freak-O-Meter and why? I’d like to know!?


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****Freak-O-Meter website http://www.freakometer.net/ ****

PD Press Release

San Jose, CA July 2009

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